Why it is so difficult to get a guy that is decent date?

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Why it is so difficult to get a guy that is decent date?

I’m 36 yr old, feminine. Well educated/travelled/dressed. Fit and attractive. Work with tech == economically stable. Own my place.

This is simply not just me personally, all my solitary girlfriends have actually the exact same challenge/complaints. People state the Silicon Valley is filled with dudes, although not a great deal if you ask me. 1/5 are super nerdy and don’t understand emotions that are human. 1/5 don’t want young ones. I make and I’m not very comfortable with that (I gave up the hope for equal-income partner long time ago 1/5 I don’t find attractive, 1/5 make less than 50% of what. Provided we have normal tech salary, 50% means he has to hold a significant task). The remainder 1/5 feel they’ve been too advantageous to me personally.

(Well these parts overlap so that the mathematics does not actually work, but you’ve got the theory)

Any tips the thing I can perform? I’d appreciate dudes’ viewpoint. Many Many Thanks!

Some back ground, I’m an immigrant, this means it took me personally great deal of the time and work to secure within the Silicon Valley. It took me personally after some duration to learn the dating norms here. Nevertheless learning everyday =)

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BIO 15+ yoe, Java, etc FORWARD PRIVATE MESSAGE

You’re much too old to have a good man for a longterm relationship. You will either attract thirsty losers or divorced dads inside their 50s.

Dudes how old you are who’re desirable are settling straight straight down with very very early 20 somethings (the minority which have their shit together) in the place of wasting their time courting somebody who is both infertile and contains a top viewpoint of on their own.

I might never date a lady in her own thirties unless i did not down want to settle and also have young ones. And I also say this as some guy whom did a longterm relationship with a female in her thirties before fundamentally realizing the mistake of my methods.

Women date and marry up match (with regards to status). Guys marry childbearing and youth potential. a woman that is attractive fortune who is leaving childbearing age will probably have really a difficult time matching with many guys-either they have been too low status or they could fare better, with a giant space in the centre for the guys which can be both too low status and certainly will fare better.

BIO Troll residing beneath the I-5 overpass FORWARD PRIVATE MESSAGE

You’ll thank the #MeToo and super feminists for several of this.

ten years ago, guys will be speaking with you within the roads, or perhaps in a bar.Lately many people are afraid to have labelled with #MeToo therefore we stay static in the web scene that is dating things are entirely shallow and numb.

It appears progressively hard to satisfy lineage individuals in actual life. Something else the feminists fucked up for people

“No, it’s YOU whom made a decision to willfully ignore the things I stated & implied yours. because it didn’t fit”

Are you currently attempting drag many of us into a school argument that is elementary?

BIO Troll residing beneath the I-5 overpass FORWARD PRIVATE MESSAGE

“No, it really is YOU whom decided to willfully ignore the things I stated & intended yours. since it didn’t fit”

Oh god. It is glorious.????

This can be planning to appear to be another post that is angry-nerd-male-rejected you want to lessen your standards and concentrate less on TC and simply be much more flexible general.

Publishing this is just everything you’re likely to suffer from. Up to many years ago I made significantly less than 60k and was more versatile on dating and also you might have auto-rejected me personally. Now I can afford to be more picky and I’d prefer dating women under 30 that I make a lot more than that and own multiple houses with a net worth of several mil. I do not have trouble with females over 30 but my criteria are higher, getting a spot is not sufficient, she’s got to places that are multiple has a small business in the part or other quality which makes up on her behalf age. I could now manage to simply head to another an element of the nation or any other nation up to now in the place of cope with ladies with psychological baggage from dating in technology bro land (sorry, simply unfortunate truth).

My point is you need to comprehend your market value relative to what you are actually in search of. Then you need to understand what makes you stand out from other women if you’re looking for that “everything” guy (so is every women in tech bro land. Regrettably for ladies, market value decreases dramatically while you approach 40 as you progress through your 30s with a significant decline. It really is less therefore with males because well. Plenty of females seek out high TC/net worth (it or not) and for most men TC increases with age and an increasing TC makes up for age and their market value doesn’t decline as much due to age whether they admit.